I let my cock do the talking. As far as the clingy, I'm the same. As far as I'll go with that is having the woman I can have as my "girlfriend" for the time that we're actually in each others' presence, but we're on our own otherwise. I have my main woman, but many "close" women. As far as she goes, she makes it known from the start that even if they wanted more, they'd have a bona fide slut who doesn't believe in being faithful. So far the men seem to love that.