Wedding Guest Has Invite Downgraded 'Multiple Times' by Bride and Groom: 'I Thought We Were Friends'

A wedding guest is airing their grievances online after a bride and groom changed their wedding plans and "downgraded" their invite "multiple times" ahead of the ceremony — and are now expecting the guest and their partner to arrive at the wedding six hours apart.

In a post on Reddit's "Wedding Shaming" forum, the Cambridge, England-based guest wrote that the ordeal first began when they were invited to the wedding of their partner's cousin. As the guest explained, they were initially told it would be a three-day affair located a six-hour drive away and that "accommodation would be sorted for us at the estate" with "no children" allowed.

As the parents of two kids, the guest and their partner made sure to plan ahead. "Fine, we got that covered over a year ago in anticipation and they gave plenty of notice, so plans could be made. No worries," the guest wrote.

But then, "a few months before" the ceremony on the "official invite," the couple discovered that the bride and groom had "reduced" them from three days to just one — with "no accommodation." While "a bit sad" about it, that wasn't an issue either, as the two guests then planned to instead visit friends in Bristol and book a hotel or Airbnb for the other two days, making "a little break" of their time away from the children.

Last week, however, plans changed yet again.

After getting a "request to RSVP within 3 days," the couple did just that — before receiving an email informing them that the Reddit user was invited for a 7:30 p.m. start, while their partner could attend the festivities at 1:30 p.m.

Basically, the bride and groom required the pair to arrive six hours apart.

"My partner doesn’t drive, so I would be driving us six hours there, six hours back. We’d be spending a fair amount of money on the [gas] and the accommodation and drinks," the Reddit user wrote. "And now I’m told I’m only going to be there from 7:30 p.m. onwards?"

"We’re both annoyed.. maybe because it’s fresh," they added. "But both me and my partner are like, ‘Ermmm, why has this not been mentioned before now, at the least?’ The place is fairly remote, in the countryside — am I just going to sit by myself for six hours, after spending an arm (and potentially a leg) to come to the wedding?"

The Reddit user added that the area around the venue was "not cheap so accommodation is expensive" — with rates around £170 (or $220) and above for a night's stay, as well as roughly £160 (or $207) being spent on gas — for a wedding that, for the Reddit user, will only last around four hours.

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In the comments, many people took the side of the couple, with most encouraging them to simply skip the wedding given the hassle. "I wouldn't go. I mean, go somewhere while you've got childcare, have fun with it, but don't go to the wedding," the most-upvoted comment read. "Those people suck."

"WOW, I mean just WOW! This couple just have no manners and are beyond thoughtless," another user chimed in. "I agree with others — change your RSVP, dump them and their wedding (which is likely to be a bit dodgy based on their [behavior] towards you as guests), go do something much more fun just the two of you, and when they get back from honeymoon consider banishing them from your social circle."

Yet another commenter also encouraged the pair to avoid the ceremony altogether.

"That’s a piss take," they wrote. "You don’t invite part of a married couple to the entire wedding and the other to only the evening do. Especially if it’s 6 hours away from home. Have a nice weekend away together."